Another Day of Infamy

Since 1963, November 22 never arrives without a heavy cover of clouds, figurative if not actual. Like most members of my generation of Americans, I felt the world change on that day 48 years ago, and not in a way I would have wished. Although eight years before my birth President Franklin Roosevelt tagged the phrase, “a date which will live in infamy”, to December 7, 1941, the 22nd of November, 1963, qualifies as another in that class.

Because of what happened, I remember certain insignificant aspects of that day that would have faded from memory long before now but not others. For example, although I can’t recall why we got out of school early that Friday, I have a mental “video” of sweeping my driveway, one of the chores that nominally justified my weekly allowance. Another lost recollection is what was in my thoughts just before the bad news came. Continue reading

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Let’s “Rock the Vote” at UCNuu!

From my volunteer work with choir, the young adult group, planning the auction, teaching RE, and other initiatives, I know that you care about UCN just as much as I do. I’m writing to ask those of you who are church members to please participate in the June 5th congregational vote (either in-person following the service or via absentee ballot which you can get from Kila). More specifically, I’m asking you to vote “Yes!” on learning more about the options for our building.
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Nonviolent Communication Workshop

“Why should I waste my time being considerate of someone who’s a J.E.R.K? Why can’t people admit they’re wrong when I point out all their flaws? Why is it important to be able to communicate with people who upset me?”

Learning non-judgmental ways of communication was the focus of Eddie Oliver, a nonviolent communication speaker, during the Jan. 16 workshop at UCN. The social hall was filled with diversity; in expectations, opinions, and levels of curiosity. Just the kind of setting I love. As a fairly new member, I was glad to share the afternoon with other congregation members who value civility.

A highlight of the workshop was a poignant short film that allowed us to experience how responding non-judgmentally feels better. We know what it feels like to react to aggravating circumstances. We do it everyday. The character in the film did just that; but after wearing special glasses, he was able to see human conditions, not just annoying actions. By the film’s end, the universal reaction was, “Where can I get a pair of those sunglasses?”

We would/do react differently (to those same circumstances) when connected to the humanity inside us. Why? Because it makes us feel better about who we are…and who you are. Everyone benefits.

We also practiced identifying and articulating our own basic needs (especially to those closest to us), recognize how our needs influence our dialog with others, and why a little consideration often softens misunderstandings and harsh feelings. Enjoying the follow-up classes!

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Bylaws change at midwinter meeting

Official notice of the mid-Winter meeting [13 Feb 2011] will be sent with your next quarterly pledge report. Several things will be happening at UCN that day and our business meeting should be very short. At the meeting, discussion regarding the proposed Bylaws change will be brief if we’ve done our homework beforehand. To that end we will have a Congregational Life Forum after the Sunday service on January 9. By that time you will have received a copy of the proposal. To facilitate early thinking in this regard, however, I include here the relevant material:

Proposed bylaws change

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URGENT WEATHER MESSAGE

Because of deteriorating weather conditions all activities at UCN are cancelled for today — December 26, 2010

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Greetings from AZ

Greetings and a happy Thanksgiving to all of you, my dear friends! Life is wonderful in AZ, but I have been working so hard to put all the stuff into my double garage room, and since yesterday I have my new computer connected. This is my first letter since I left Norfolk. You know how important you all are to me.

My wonderful POD team, Dave, Rick and Eric, has done such a good job, all arrived intact and the gang here had fun, getting it out while I was vacationing in Germany. My daughter’s house was hit very badly by the 100 yr ice storm, and roof, windows, and flooring needed to be new. So the POD had to wait for 2 more wks, and it had not arrived when the storm hit, such luck!
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Netiquette

E-MAIL ETIQUETTE, by Laura Stack
[modifications: Jeremy Slosser, 2010]

1. Concentrate on one subject per message whenever possible. It’s easier for the recipient and the subject heading will make search/retrieval more efficient.

2. Keep messages brief and to the point. ABAP: “As Brief As Possible.”

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My Story: Phyllis Stein

Shared during Ingathering, Friday, September 24, 2010

When [Rev.] John [Manwell] called and asked if we would be willing to take part in this workshop by sharing what he termed “our spiritual odysseys”, he said that he and [Rev.] Phyllis [Hubbell] had done something similar at a GA conference a few years back, but that he thought for the purposes of this weekend, it might be helpful to have stories from long term members.

Although the word “odyssey” sounds a bit grand for my maze-like wanderings over the years, I’ll try to recall some of them for you and hope you can follow the jumps. The events may not be in chronological order, but they all contributed to the search for meaning in my life.
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Process vs. Product

Today’s subject: DECISION MAKING. “Process” is the series of steps we go through when making a decision, and “Product” is the outcome or result of those steps. Which of those, product or process, is the more important? As a “J” on the Myers-Briggs test, I can tell you that I fight the tendency to make the judgment and get to the outcome as quickly as possible. Many others have that same shoot-from-the-hip tendency. Acting impulsively can sometimes serve us well when only our personal interests are at stake but can be fatally detrimental when making decisions for a larger group. In this context a studied, deliberate, collaborative unfolding of the decision making steps will better serve the group needs. If group members have not been actively involved in the steps leading to a decision, they are unlikely to be supportive of the outcome prescribed by group leadership.
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Church Communications Team Goes Begging

Like many others in our church, most of my volunteer work is behind the scenes, out of the spotlight. As Web Administrator, I only draw attention when the web site is down. Fortunately, because of the stability of the hosting platform Laura Moss selected when she performed this job, that is relatively rare. The other volunteer members of our team, newsletter editor Lynn Jacobs and Friday eMail editor Francie Siegfried, have also been able to remain out of the public eye by dint of their diligence in turning out on schedule publications that we all tend to take for granted.

Since I became Web Administrator in late 2008, the Friday eMail has changed hands four times. The grind of turning out a weekly compilation of upcoming congregational events in a timely way takes a toll on people with other commitments in their lives. Fortunately, for those who receive the weekly “wake up call”, each time the position of editor has needed a new volunteer, we have gotten one. It is quite miraculous, particularly by Unitarian-Universalist standards.

In the same time frame, we have had another, quieter miracle in communications. Every time Lynn Jacobs has attempted to give up her editorial position on the newsletter, she has remained in place rather than allow the “press room” to go dark. Over the last two years, she has had some close encounters with “retirement” from the post, only to have her hopes dashed at the last moment. She still carries it on, but I believe that like an addict who has finally hit rock bottom, she will make good on her promise to quit. It will be a great loss to our community, even more so if no one comes forward to carry the torch. (Don’t look in this direction! If you do, you have no idea what else is currently on my plate.)

Somewhere out there is a newsletter editor-in-waiting. Please step forward before the flame burns out.

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